Get To Know Me Questions
How would you describe yourself to a stranger?
Hmmm… I’d say that I’m funny, sarcastic, and I’m not afraid to speak my opinions. I’d say I’m adventurous, and a risk taker.
What things would you say have shaped you as a person?
The three things that have shaped me the most as a person would probably have to be my disability, and being an immigrant, and a person of color. These experiences have made me in my opinion more resilient and determined to break down the stereotypes that I face. Which is why I started blogging.
What are your pronouns?
My pronouns are she/her.
What’s your big goal for this year?
Hmm… My biggest goal for this year is to be happier and to have better mental health. If you read my blog then you’ll know that I have horrible mental health but my goal is to do something to help cope with all these feelings. Whether that’s going to see someone professional, or talking to someone, or just disconnecting from toxic people. I just want to get better and be in the best head space I can.
What’s your favourite genre of music?
I’m one of those people with a really eclectic taste, I listen to everything from rap, to pop, to metal, to Indian music, to Turkish music, to Afro trap, to EDM. But right now I’m obsessed with French rap!!! My favorite song at the moment would have to be Hiro by Soprano!!! He’s a French rapper and he is just brilliant!!! So I suggest you check him out.
What is your greatest achievement?
This is a hard one cause I feel like I’m a boring person. However, I’d have to say that my greatest achievement would have to be winning second place in the swimming championship.
Are you right or left-handed?
I’m one of those unique individuals who happens to be ambidextrous. Cool, right?
Who inspires you?
I’m inspired by several people actually. I’m inspired by singers such as Kendrick Lamar and Stormzy. I’m inspired by the thousands of refugees risking their lives looking for a better future. I’m inspired by the people on the streets lost to the eye of society. I could go on for days, honestly.
General Mental Health Questions
What’s your routine like on a bad mental health day?
On a bad mental health day I try to lock myself in my room and just exist in my own head. Or if that doesn’t work then I’ll blog about what’s bothering me in order to see if someone’s out there to help. I’ve also found that on bad days writing specifically helps as well.
How do you deal with the thought that your mental health is holding you back?
I just know that I might be struggling now but it’s okay to take my time. It’s okay to struggle, and fail, and try again, instead of pushing myself until I explode. This took me a long time to master. And there are days where I still think I could be doing more but I’m doing my best and that’s all that matters.
How do you deal with loneliness?
Honestly some days I love being alone because it’s who I am, and I’m not bothered by wallowing in my cocoon. But on other days it sucks to be lonely and I feel like I’m drowning in nothingness. So on those days I try to find something that grounds me. For example, a friend, or a good book.
What is your disability and how does it affect you?
My disability is retinopathy of prematurity which basically means I’m legally blind. That means that I can’t read print and I need my work formatted in an accessible way, such as braille, or electronically.
How long have you had your disability for?
I’ve had my disability since I was born so all my life.
What are some common misconceptions about your disability?
I think the most common misconceptions about my disability would be that I’m mentally incapable, or that disabled people in general can’t have sex.
What do you hope to achieve through talking about disability on your blog?
I hope by speaking on disability people understand that I’m like them. I hope by reading my content you realize that disabled people are flawed, and wonderful humans who need just as much love as the rest of you. I hope you understand that if you pull back the layers of my skin, you’ll find blood too.
Which questions are off-limits when it comes to asking about your disability
The questions that are off-limits for me are about my sex life or if I’m a virgin. Just no… Please don’t ask. My thing is if you wouldn’t ask a sighted person then why would you ask me?
Were you ever in denial about your sexuality?
Yes when I first realized I was a lesbian at the age of 12 I tried to deny it to my dying breath…but I realized that pretending was causing me to have a slow death.
What’s been the hardest thing about not being able to tell your parents/ friends about your sexuality?
Well this one won’t have anything to do with friends since my friends all know that I’m gay. But I’d have to say the hardest thing about not telling my parents is feeling like I’m a burden at home and I can’t be my true self. Also I can’t tell my parents about my crushes. Or bring my non-existent girlfriend home to them. And my parents probably won’t throw me a typical brown wedding so…
How do you deal with the stigma surrounding being gay?
I combat the stigma by blogging and sharing my experiences so that other teens or whom ever feel less alone and don’t go through the shit I did. I just want to show another disabled Muslim kid that’s okay to be gay, you know?
What is one thing you wish you could tell your parents about your sexuality?
I’d tell them that there’s nothing wrong with me, and that I don’t need a cure.
What are some of the reasons you haven’t come out yet?
The main reason is I’m not away from home. I’d like to come out when I’ve moved out so that if there’s a negative reaction I can make a quick escape. Also I have a feeling if I do come out then I could be disowned and I’d like to be financially stable for something like that.
What’s the hardest thing about not being out yet?
Feeling like I’m not enough at home. Or feeling like I’m unwanted, and not being able to just kiss whom ever I’d please in public without my parents finding out.
Who are some icons that inspire you and remind you to stay true to your identity?
I assume these have to be LGBTQ so I’m going to say Kehlani.
Why do you think it’s so hard for POC’s parents to accept their sexuality?
I think it’s difficult for POC parents to accept their kids because there are cultural differences and perhaps not enough resources for the parents to have access to.
How do you handle rude/insensitive comments about the LGBTQ+ community?
At the beginning I’d take those comments personally but now I just shrug it off and realize that I’m better off without those rude or insensitive people in my life. It’s their problem for not being able to accept me, not mine.
Advice for handling homophobic relatives during the holidays?
I’ve thankfully have never had to deal with this one because my relatives live super far but I’d have to say just grit your teeth and realize that those people in your family don’t deserve your time.
What is one thing you wish you could tell all LQBTQ+ POC?
I’d tell them to be themselves and to just hang in there cause it gets better I promise.
I started blogging because I needed a space where I didn’t feel restricted when it came to voicing my opinions and sharing my emotions and I found that, I found this amazing community of people who’ve changed my perspective about and opened my eyes to a lot of things.
I’m a better person because of those people.
From the very beginning, mental health was always something I wanted to talk about because it’s something very close to my heart and something I’ve struggled with for a very long time. Right from the get go I told myself that someday I would talk about my own issues, that, I would do it regardless… Continue reading FRIDAY 6PM